We Need Your Help!

SOBS currently has 60+ support groups set up across the UK, but there are still large areas that we haven’t reached, and we need your help to do this.

We are looking to raise £50,000+ to expand our support group network, and to train and develop our existing network to make sure we are offering the best possible support.

If you would like to help this campaign and donate, please visit: https://www.justgiving.com/campaigns/charity/sbbs/supportgroupcampaign

You can also text donate to this campaign, by texting ‘SOBS02 £5’ to 70070 to donate £5 to this campaign. Donations can be £1, £2, £3, £4, £5 or £10, by changing the value in the text message.

The campaign is also live on our Facebook page, over at https://www.facebook.com/SOBSCharity

Connie’s Swim The Channel in 12 weeks Challenge

I am going to Swim The Channel in my Lunch Hours! for Survivors Of Bereavement By Suicide because they are my Life Support

My wonderful son George ended his life in March 2010 at the age of 15. The gap that he has left in all of my family’s life is heartbreakingly huge. We have cried and comforted each other throughout the passing years.

Unfortunately for us we had never heard of Survivors Of Bereavement By Suicide and we have just struggled on with our grief and our lives. Recently though life has become particularly difficult for me and through word of mouth I was given a contact number for a support group. This support group has been undoubtedly, for me, a vital life line. “Hope is the thing with feathers…” and with the support of my local SOBS group I have realised many things and that I am not alone in the weirdness of the world whilst grieving.
Donating through JustGiving is simple, fast and totally secure. Your details are safe with JustGiving – they’ll never sell them on or send unwanted emails. Once you donate, they’ll send your money directly to the charity. So it’s the most efficient way to donate – saving time and cutting costs for the charity.  Please follow this link http://www.justgiving.com/Connie-Gibbons 


Norfolk Groups Closure

It is with sadness I have to  announce the closure of our Norfolk Groups

Jacqui Page has given so much to help our charity to exist in Norfolk  and expected little for her hard work and support given to those who attended her group. Jacqui achieved so much during her time with SoBS , she started two support groups and volunteered for the National helpline, she also achieved funding from outside sources which helped greatly to keep the group running.  She networked with other agencies, the coroner’s office, local churches and the Police. Jacqui has now decided to concentrate on her family and personal career opportunities. The Charity would like to wish Jacqui and her family  every success, health and happiness for the future.

A legacy from Jacqui,  somewhere all Norfolk survivors can go to remember their loved ones. A short statement from Norfolk SoBS Volunteers (1)


Can you Help?

My name is Elaine Frawley. I am a 2nd year Counselling Psychology student on the Doctorate programme at Wolverhampton University. I am recruiting participants for my Doctorate Thesis which is looking at the experiences of adults( over 20 years) who lost a parent from the ages of 12-19. This research has full ethical approval from the university.
If any of you have experienced this phenomenon or know of anyone who has, who would like to take part, then please feel free to email me on frawleyelaine@hotmail.com and I can give you an information sheet, discuss the logistics of the interview (telephone/skype), discuss the inclusion/exclusion criteria, and answer any questions that you may have. It is an interpretative phenomenological analysis which means that I wont be asking direct questions but allowing your experience to be heard.

Whitehaven Girls Skydive in memory of John

Most friends would spend their time shopping, watching films or meeting up for a coffee. Stacey Weir (29, Whitehaven) and Lauren Graham (26, Whitehaven) are not your average friends. They are going to be joining forces as they skydive to raise money for Survivors of Bereavement by Suicide (SOBS) Cumbria on Saturday 29 April. The pair are jumping in memory of Stacey’s dad, John Hyncica, who sadly took his own life in 2014.

Each year, more than 6,000 people take their own lives across the UK: SOBS is a national charity which works to provide emotional support to those who have been left behind. SOBS Cumbria support groups meet once a month, with groups in North, South and West Cumbria. They also have a local 24/7 helpline.

The choice to raise funds for SOBS Cumbria was clear to Stacey. “When something like that [suicide] happens, it’s hard to understand what’s going on. With SOBS Cumbria, you’re speaking to people who have had similar experiences, so you’re with people who know what it feels like. In a way, you can relate to each other. Some people don’t have anyone, so it’s really important that the support is there for people who might be going through it by themselves.

“Lauren is one of my best friends; she saw how hard it was for me when my dad died. I told her about what I was planning to do and she offered to join me so that we could raise more money and help more people. We’re both really excited and nervous; Lauren’s definitely scared about the jump!”

SOBS Cumbria provides support locally to people in and around Cumbria, South Scotland, North Lancashire and North East England. “I’m glad I’m helping a local charity, because it means that I’m helping local people.

“Everyone says I’m crazy, but that I’m doing an amazing thing. They say my dad would be proud. I’ve always wanted to do a lot of extreme things, like bungee jumping and skydiving; my dad liked extreme things too.”

So far, the pair have raised £1,090 of their £2,000 target.

If you’d like to support Stacey and Lauren’s fundraising campaign, visit their BT MyDonate donation page. Alternatively, you can donate via JustTextGiving by texting SOBS00 to 70070 followed by the amount you wish to donate (e.g. “SOBS00 £30”). Donations to JustTextGiving start at £10. If you would like to donate by cheque, please make it payable to ‘SOBS Cumbria’ and send it to SOBS Cumbria, The Old British School, 15A Chapel Street,  Appleby-in-Westmorland, Cumbria, CA16 6QR.

If you are struggling with the death of someone who has taken their own life and need someone to listen to your experience and offer you support, please do get in touch. You can call the SOBS Cumbria 24/7 helpline on 07572 975 721 (John) or 07896 703 757 (Karan). You can also email us at hello@sobs-cumbria.org.uk, or you can visit us on Facebook and Twitter at @SOBSCumbria.

Angela Samata Appointed Ambassador of SoBS



Angela, has been continually working behind the scenes for Survivors of Bereavement by Suicide since she handed over the position of Chair to Ann Culley.


When Angela was asked to be an Ambassador for the Charity she replied  “I’m delighted to accept the role as Ambassador of the Survivors of Bereavement by Suicide. I feel privileged to be asked to represent the work that SoBS do and the continued part that our work plays in the National conversation about the vital need to provide support for those bereaved by suicide. The work and the people that make the Charity all that it is are very close to my heart and I feel honoured to be asked to take up this role.

I’ll never forget the relief that I felt as I walked into a SoBS support group for the first time in 2004. I’m humbled now to be able to encourage others to access SoBS support and to give others the chance to experience the same support I received.

 I followed the path on many before me, first receiving support and then feeling compelled to give a little back to a Charity that played a fundamental part in where I am today.  As a Help-line Volunteer and a Group Leader I gained valuable insight into our work. As a Trustee and Vice Chair I gained valuable insight into how our work is vital at both a local and national level, and as your Chair from 2010-2014 it was my great honour to work on the Board and to ensure our place in the national conversation.

 I was delighted that the BBC brought our work to the fore in our documentary Life After Suicide. Watched by over 3 million people, the film featured the SoBS Liverpool support group, giving a real insight into how our groups work and the vital support they offer. I hope to continue to promote our work and I look forward to working with you.”

 Angela Samata

Can you Help?

Joe Madden Journalist require some help with an article for Cosmopolitan


Please read Joe’s request and if you can help get in touch directly with him:

My name’s Joe Madden and I’m a freelance journalist who’s currently working on a piece for Cosmopolitan magazine on depression and suicide amongst young men, and the impact on wives and girlfriends left behind when a man takes his own life. 


Cosmopolitan have asked me to write the piece because I suffered from depression in my early 20s – not to the extent that I came close to taking my own life, but enough to have an understanding of how it’d be possible to get to that point.

I’m looking to interview 3-5 women in their 20s or 30s who’ve experienced the loss of a partner through suicide, and I was hoping you’d be okay with me posting a callout for potential interviewees on the SOBS Facebook page?

As part of the piece, I’ll also be speaking to mental health professionals to get an understanding of why young men are so at risk of suicide, and what readers can do if they suspect that their partner or friend is at risk. 


If you’d like to see any of my previous work for Cosmopolitan, here’s a piece I did on the Women’s Equality Party .

Let me know what you think, and thanks for your time.


Joe Madden

E-mail: joe.madden2001@gmail.com
Tel: 07772 345 407





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