We Need Your Help!

SOBS currently has 60+ support groups set up across the UK, but there are still large areas that we haven’t reached, and we need your help to do this.

We are looking to raise £50,000+ to expand our support group network, and to train and develop our existing network to make sure we are offering the best possible support.

If you would like to help this campaign and donate, please visit: https://www.justgiving.com/campaigns/charity/sbbs/supportgroupcampaign

You can also text donate to this campaign, by texting ‘SOBS02 £5’ to 70070 to donate £5 to this campaign. Donations can be £1, £2, £3, £4, £5 or £10, by changing the value in the text message.

The campaign is also live on our Facebook page, over at https://www.facebook.com/SOBSCharity

Suicide Bereavement: Breaking the Silence

This international conference is a collaboration between Suicide Bereavement UK and Pennine Care NHS Foundation Trust. It provides a platform whereby individuals can network, learn from each other and share good practice in this newly developing field in the UK. Over 350 delegates, from several countries attend this event and it is always over-subscribed.

Venue: Pendulum Hotel, Manchester. M1 3BB https://www.pendulumhotel.co.uk/

PABBS evidence-based suicide bereavement training has been informed by a three-year study, led by Dr. Sharon McDonnell’s research team at the University of Manchester. The study was funded by the National Institute for Health Research (NIHR) and first of its kind internationally. The training helps to address one of the key areas for action in England’s suicide prevention strategy (DH, 2017).

For more information and bookings please follow the link provided:


HCUK Conferences September / October 2018

 20% discount is available by quoting ref: HCUK20SOBS when booking.(*Cannot be used in conjunction with any other offer. Full T&Cs available upon request.)

Preventing Suicide in Young People & Children
Friday 21 September 2018
De Vere West One Conference Centre, London
By attending this one day conference you will hear from expert speakers on how your service can reduce preventable suicides and save young lives. Through national updates, case studies from multi-agency settings and personal story insight, this conference aims to set the scene for progress already being made and what needs to change to implement the National Inquiry key recommendations, in line with the Five Year Forward View for improved young people’s mental health care.
For further information and to book your place visit

email Kerry
Follow the conference on Twitter #savingyounglives

Improving Mental Health Crisis Care
Monday 1 October 2018
De Vere West One Conference Centre, London
The National Mental Health Crisis Summit takes a practical case study based approach to improving services and outcomes for people with mental health conditions requiring urgent and crisis care. The day will focus on improving services for mental health crisis care, through learning from organisations that have succeeded in addressing the challenge of improving access and delivering an effective mental health crisis pathway in line with the national concordat. Case Studies of Beyond Places of Safety Crisis services will be presented following the Department of Health additional funding focusing on timely support to relieve pressures on hospitals by reducing unnecessary visits to A&E for those experiencing a crisis.
For further information and to book your place visit

email Judi
Follow the conference on Twitter #MHCrisis

Warning to All Parents

“ Doki Doki also known as Doki Doki Literature Club. Developed in 2017. It does warn it is not suitable for children however the graphics etc are clearly aimed at young people. This is the first game produced by Salvato and has won a number of awards since it was launched in August 2017. It was downloaded over 2 million times in the first 4 months.

In essence the story plot seems to be that a male character joins a literature club and interacts with female members. There are alternative endings depending on choices made during the course of the game. The story plot uncovers suicidal thoughts the members have. The multiple outcomes follow things such as mental health issues (voices in their head), self-harming, suicide and violent scenes such as one of the player’s neck snapping. All of this then links the reader back to an outcome whereby you are made to think the PC has taken over your computer and you have to continue playing. Some outcomes lead you to consider what you could have done to prevent one of the characters deaths. One even shows you messages from the players who have passed away saying “ now you can all be happy I am gone”. This is a psychological horror game with suicide as a main feature.

This game is free of charge but an upgraded version can be purchased for $10 to unlock extra content.

Prior to our contact the NSPCC Online Safety team had had no calls with regards to this game but they are now alerted to its existence.

As a result they reviewed information from their Childline Counsellor Facts notes since April 2017. Two counselling sessions had made notes with regards to Doki Doki – these were in November 2017 and January 2018. One talked about a friend playing the game. It was noted the game can trigger emotional responses. The other session noted the young person had been playing it and their favourite character had committed suicide – the young person was thinking about ending their life the same way.”

Request to Complete National Suicide Bereavement Survey

Dr. Sharon McDonnell is bereaved by suicide and is a volunteer at the Greater Manchester SoBS group. She also specialises in suicide bereavement research. She is currently leading a research project, which aims to identify the experiences and needs of those bereaved by suicide. This study is being conducted by the University of Manchester in collaboration with The Support After Suicide Partnership (which includes 35 organisations that focus on suicide bereavement).

Sharon and her team have developed a suicide bereavement survey. It has been designed for anyone bereaved by suicide who is aged 18 years and older. It is a 12 month study (Sept 2017 – Aug 2018). Already there has been a lot of interest in this research. For example, it has been referred to in the House of Commons and a request has been made for a debate on suicide bereavement.


To date, 2615 people have completed the survey. Sharon and her team would like to recruit 10,000 people by the end of August 2018. This is the reason why she is asking for our help. Please will you consider completing the national suicide bereavement survey if you feel able. The link to the information sheet and survey are provided in the following link:


Thank you for considering our request.

Matthew’s Song by Andrew Russell

Andrew Russell has written a song in memory of his brother Matthew

Andrew has decided that he will match the total donations himself up to the first £1000. All donations will be split between two charities: SOBS (Survivors of Bereavement by Suicide) and CALM (Campaign Against Living Miserably).

For more information please follow the link which gives an option to listen to the song.




Are Some Suicides Connected To Gambling?

We are members of the Sheffield SoBS group. Our son Jack took his own life on November 22 because he was addicted to gambling. He was just 24. We have set up a charity called You Don’t Know Jack in order to understand more about gambling related harm, particularly suicide, and to campaign for better understanding of the effects of gambling.

We would very much like to be in contact with anyone who has been affected by suicide connected to gambling. We would like to be able to provide mutual support, to develop a greater understanding of the issues associated with this kind of suicide and to try to see what lessons there might be.

If anyone would like to contact us we can be reached on the following email or telephone number:

lizk.therapy@blueyonder.co.uk  0114 255 4013.

Many thanks

Liz and Charles Ritchie

Connie’s Swim The Channel in 12 weeks Challenge

I am going to Swim The Channel in my Lunch Hours! for Survivors Of Bereavement By Suicide because they are my Life Support

My wonderful son George ended his life in March 2010 at the age of 15. The gap that he has left in all of my family’s life is heartbreakingly huge. We have cried and comforted each other throughout the passing years.

Unfortunately for us we had never heard of Survivors Of Bereavement By Suicide and we have just struggled on with our grief and our lives. Recently though life has become particularly difficult for me and through word of mouth I was given a contact number for a support group. This support group has been undoubtedly, for me, a vital life line. “Hope is the thing with feathers…” and with the support of my local SOBS group I have realised many things and that I am not alone in the weirdness of the world whilst grieving.
Donating through JustGiving is simple, fast and totally secure. Your details are safe with JustGiving – they’ll never sell them on or send unwanted emails. Once you donate, they’ll send your money directly to the charity. So it’s the most efficient way to donate – saving time and cutting costs for the charity.  Please follow this link http://www.justgiving.com/Connie-Gibbons 


Norfolk Groups Closure

It is with sadness I have to  announce the closure of our Norfolk Groups

Jacqui Page has given so much to help our charity to exist in Norfolk  and expected little for her hard work and support given to those who attended her group. Jacqui achieved so much during her time with SoBS , she started two support groups and volunteered for the National helpline, she also achieved funding from outside sources which helped greatly to keep the group running.  She networked with other agencies, the coroner’s office, local churches and the Police. Jacqui has now decided to concentrate on her family and personal career opportunities. The Charity would like to wish Jacqui and her family  every success, health and happiness for the future.

A legacy from Jacqui,  somewhere all Norfolk survivors can go to remember their loved ones. A short statement from Norfolk SoBS Volunteers (1)


Can you Help?

My name is Elaine Frawley. I am a 2nd year Counselling Psychology student on the Doctorate programme at Wolverhampton University. I am recruiting participants for my Doctorate Thesis which is looking at the experiences of adults( over 20 years) who lost a parent from the ages of 12-19. This research has full ethical approval from the university.
If any of you have experienced this phenomenon or know of anyone who has, who would like to take part, then please feel free to email me on frawleyelaine@hotmail.com and I can give you an information sheet, discuss the logistics of the interview (telephone/skype), discuss the inclusion/exclusion criteria, and answer any questions that you may have. It is an interpretative phenomenological analysis which means that I wont be asking direct questions but allowing your experience to be heard.

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