We Need Your Help!

SOBS currently has 60+ support groups set up across the UK, but there are still large areas that we haven’t reached, and we need your help to do this.

We are looking to raise £50,000+ to expand our support group network, and to train and develop our existing network to make sure we are offering the best possible support.

If you would like to help this campaign and donate, please visit: https://www.justgiving.com/campaigns/charity/sbbs/supportgroupcampaign

You can also text donate to this campaign, by texting ‘SOBS02 £5’ to 70070 to donate £5 to this campaign. Donations can be £1, £2, £3, £4, £5 or £10, by changing the value in the text message.

The campaign is also live on our Facebook page, over at https://www.facebook.com/SOBSCharity

Request to Complete National Suicide Bereavement Survey

Dr. Sharon McDonnell is bereaved by suicide and is a volunteer at the Greater Manchester SoBS group. She also specialises in suicide bereavement research. She is currently leading a research project, which aims to identify the experiences and needs of those bereaved by suicide. This study is being conducted by the University of Manchester in collaboration with The Support After Suicide Partnership (which includes 35 organisations that focus on suicide bereavement).

Sharon and her team have developed a suicide bereavement survey. It has been designed for anyone bereaved by suicide who is aged 18 years and older. It is a 12 month study (Sept 2017 – Aug 2018). Already there has been a lot of interest in this research. For example, it has been referred to in the House of Commons and a request has been made for a debate on suicide bereavement.


To date, 2615 people have completed the survey. Sharon and her team would like to recruit 10,000 people by the end of August 2018. This is the reason why she is asking for our help. Please will you consider completing the national suicide bereavement survey if you feel able. The link to the information sheet and survey are provided in the following link:


Thank you for considering our request.

Matthew’s Song by Andrew Russell

Andrew Russell has written a song in memory of his brother Matthew

Andrew has decided that he will match the total donations himself up to the first £1000. All donations will be split between two charities: SOBS (Survivors of Bereavement by Suicide) and CALM (Campaign Against Living Miserably).

For more information please follow the link which gives an option to listen to the song.




Are Some Suicides Connected To Gambling?

We are members of the Sheffield SoBS group. Our son Jack took his own life on November 22 because he was addicted to gambling. He was just 24. We have set up a charity called You Don’t Know Jack in order to understand more about gambling related harm, particularly suicide, and to campaign for better understanding of the effects of gambling.

We would very much like to be in contact with anyone who has been affected by suicide connected to gambling. We would like to be able to provide mutual support, to develop a greater understanding of the issues associated with this kind of suicide and to try to see what lessons there might be.

If anyone would like to contact us we can be reached on the following email or telephone number:

lizk.therapy@blueyonder.co.uk  0114 255 4013.

Many thanks

Liz and Charles Ritchie

Connie’s Swim The Channel in 12 weeks Challenge

I am going to Swim The Channel in my Lunch Hours! for Survivors Of Bereavement By Suicide because they are my Life Support

My wonderful son George ended his life in March 2010 at the age of 15. The gap that he has left in all of my family’s life is heartbreakingly huge. We have cried and comforted each other throughout the passing years.

Unfortunately for us we had never heard of Survivors Of Bereavement By Suicide and we have just struggled on with our grief and our lives. Recently though life has become particularly difficult for me and through word of mouth I was given a contact number for a support group. This support group has been undoubtedly, for me, a vital life line. “Hope is the thing with feathers…” and with the support of my local SOBS group I have realised many things and that I am not alone in the weirdness of the world whilst grieving.
Donating through JustGiving is simple, fast and totally secure. Your details are safe with JustGiving – they’ll never sell them on or send unwanted emails. Once you donate, they’ll send your money directly to the charity. So it’s the most efficient way to donate – saving time and cutting costs for the charity.  Please follow this link http://www.justgiving.com/Connie-Gibbons 


Norfolk Groups Closure

It is with sadness I have to  announce the closure of our Norfolk Groups

Jacqui Page has given so much to help our charity to exist in Norfolk  and expected little for her hard work and support given to those who attended her group. Jacqui achieved so much during her time with SoBS , she started two support groups and volunteered for the National helpline, she also achieved funding from outside sources which helped greatly to keep the group running.  She networked with other agencies, the coroner’s office, local churches and the Police. Jacqui has now decided to concentrate on her family and personal career opportunities. The Charity would like to wish Jacqui and her family  every success, health and happiness for the future.

A legacy from Jacqui,  somewhere all Norfolk survivors can go to remember their loved ones. A short statement from Norfolk SoBS Volunteers (1)


Can you Help?

My name is Elaine Frawley. I am a 2nd year Counselling Psychology student on the Doctorate programme at Wolverhampton University. I am recruiting participants for my Doctorate Thesis which is looking at the experiences of adults( over 20 years) who lost a parent from the ages of 12-19. This research has full ethical approval from the university.
If any of you have experienced this phenomenon or know of anyone who has, who would like to take part, then please feel free to email me on frawleyelaine@hotmail.com and I can give you an information sheet, discuss the logistics of the interview (telephone/skype), discuss the inclusion/exclusion criteria, and answer any questions that you may have. It is an interpretative phenomenological analysis which means that I wont be asking direct questions but allowing your experience to be heard.

Whitehaven Girls Skydive in memory of John

Most friends would spend their time shopping, watching films or meeting up for a coffee. Stacey Weir (29, Whitehaven) and Lauren Graham (26, Whitehaven) are not your average friends. They are going to be joining forces as they skydive to raise money for Survivors of Bereavement by Suicide (SOBS) Cumbria on Saturday 29 April. The pair are jumping in memory of Stacey’s dad, John Hyncica, who sadly took his own life in 2014.

Each year, more than 6,000 people take their own lives across the UK: SOBS is a national charity which works to provide emotional support to those who have been left behind. SOBS Cumbria support groups meet once a month, with groups in North, South and West Cumbria. They also have a local 24/7 helpline.

The choice to raise funds for SOBS Cumbria was clear to Stacey. “When something like that [suicide] happens, it’s hard to understand what’s going on. With SOBS Cumbria, you’re speaking to people who have had similar experiences, so you’re with people who know what it feels like. In a way, you can relate to each other. Some people don’t have anyone, so it’s really important that the support is there for people who might be going through it by themselves.

“Lauren is one of my best friends; she saw how hard it was for me when my dad died. I told her about what I was planning to do and she offered to join me so that we could raise more money and help more people. We’re both really excited and nervous; Lauren’s definitely scared about the jump!”

SOBS Cumbria provides support locally to people in and around Cumbria, South Scotland, North Lancashire and North East England. “I’m glad I’m helping a local charity, because it means that I’m helping local people.

“Everyone says I’m crazy, but that I’m doing an amazing thing. They say my dad would be proud. I’ve always wanted to do a lot of extreme things, like bungee jumping and skydiving; my dad liked extreme things too.”

So far, the pair have raised £1,090 of their £2,000 target.

If you’d like to support Stacey and Lauren’s fundraising campaign, visit their BT MyDonate donation page. Alternatively, you can donate via JustTextGiving by texting SOBS00 to 70070 followed by the amount you wish to donate (e.g. “SOBS00 £30”). Donations to JustTextGiving start at £10. If you would like to donate by cheque, please make it payable to ‘SOBS Cumbria’ and send it to SOBS Cumbria, The Old British School, 15A Chapel Street,  Appleby-in-Westmorland, Cumbria, CA16 6QR.

If you are struggling with the death of someone who has taken their own life and need someone to listen to your experience and offer you support, please do get in touch. You can call the SOBS Cumbria 24/7 helpline on 07572 975 721 (John) or 07896 703 757 (Karan). You can also email us at hello@sobs-cumbria.org.uk, or you can visit us on Facebook and Twitter at @SOBSCumbria.

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