SOBS – Survivors of Bereavement by Suicide
The ‘Engaging Men’ programme
An activity-based programme to engage males bereaved by suicide.
If you ….
Do not know where to turn to for help, but need it
Find it easier to talk whilst being active
This could be your answer
1. THE NEED:
Did you know that, following the suicide of a family member, friend, or colleague, too many men:
Suffer months, or years of inner turmoil
Find it hard, or impossible to talk about their feelings
Find that these repressed feelings may turn up in unwanted places and unwanted times in forms such as depression, or aggression
Feel they have to ‘stay strong’ for others, even when that is a task which would be too much, even for Superman
Feel increasingly isolated and alone
Risk becoming alienated even from their closest family and friends
Risk turning to other ‘comforts,’ such as alcohol, or drugs
Have suicidal thoughts of their own, but ….
Find that they benefit most from being alongside and ‘shoulder-to-shoulder’ with other men who have experienced bereavement by suicide
2. THE PROJECT:
This project is for you if you recognise yourself anywhere in the list. It aims to address some of those issues and engage with men who have been bereaved by suicide and know they would find it helpful to talk to other men who have suffered the same trauma.
The project and activities will:
Involve only men
Involve only those who have been bereaved by suicide, so everyone has had a similar experience of bereavement
Focus on activities expressed as interests by the men who respond
Sample activities might include:
Sport (active/passive); music (pop to classical); film/theatre; cars/transport; walking; gardening; hands-on skills; photography; anything else which has an interest-group.
Participating groups are: Gloucester, Swindon With other Group development in Uttoxeter, Bradford, Manchester, Portsmouth and Bournemouth Engaging Men
Worth a read: ‘Men and Grief’ by Carol Staudacher. To read it is to benefit, but to understand and to apply its principles is to progress with greater confidence along the road which leads eventually to acceptance and greater emotional stability. The best three pounds, thirty-nine p I ever spent. Whilst it is out of print now, copies are available through internet sources. (Steve Carter – National Programme leader) Contact: firstname.lastname@example.org