It is common and natural to have thoughts about suicide after losing someone in this way. It can be very frightening and worrying. It is very important that you talk with people who can support you.
It is important that you talk to someone. Often these thoughts will pass and talking to someone about how you are feeling can help them to clear more quickly.
You may worry about sharing these thoughts with a family member or friend – perhaps you don’t want to panic them or you simply find it difficult to find the words. It may help to show them this site so that they are aware that this is a normal response to bereavement by suicide.
Some people find it easier if they can talk with people who they don’t know – find out more about how we and other organisations can help .
You can talk to your GP or health professional – this is particularly important if the thoughts or feelings are persistent or increasing in intensity or frequency.
Some people find it helpful to prepare a support plan – a list of people they can contact, things they can do or places they can go when they start to feel overwhelmed by thoughts of suicide. The charity Mind provides some ideas and advice about creating your support plan.
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If you are experiencing intense feelings right now it is important that you get in contact with someone urgently. You may be struggling to believe that anyone can help but even the act of talking with someone can help to create some space and clarity.
You could contact a family member or a friend or one of the organisations listed below. You can contact your GP – details of their out of hours service are usually available on line or call the NHS on 111. If you already have support from your community mental health or crisis team, you should contact them.
If you find yourself in an emergency situation – if you cannot make any other contact or if you have arranged the means to take your life, already taken action or self harmed, call 999 or get to A&E.
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- Samaritans are open 24/7 and provide a listening service for those who are in distress and feeling suicidal. Calling their helpline is the quickest way to get a response – 116 123 (UK). You can also email them (jo@Samaritansorg) or visit a local branch.
- Saneline are a specialist mental health helpline – 0300 304 7000 between 4.30pm and 10.30pm each evening.
- Maytree provide support to and offer a sanctuary for people who are suicidal
- Papyrus provide support for young people. If you are a young person at risk of suicide or are worried about a young person at risk of suicide, you can contact HOPELineUK on 0800 068 41 41 (Mon-Fri 10:00 am to 5:00 pm and 7:00 pm to 10:00 pm, Weekends 2:00 pm to 5:00 pm).
- CALM (the Campaign Against Living Miserably) provide helpline and other support – please visit the site for details of their regional helplines.
- Breathing Space (Scotland) is a free, confidential phone and web based service for people in Scotland experiencing low mood, depression or anxiety 0800 83 85 87 (Mon-Thur 6pm til 2am, weekends 6pm to 6am).
- Mind provide mental health advice and support including details about managing suicidal feelings.
- NHS provide information and advice about suicidal feelings including places to get help.